Have you been in a relationship for a while now? You might find that things are losing their touch or their taste. Just like everything we practice for a prolonged period of time, we tend to get complacent with it, distant from it, and dare I say bored of it. Relationships are just that. And marriage is the equivalent of deciding to eat the same 4-course meal for the rest of your life. It doesn’t matter if you met at your local bar or if you met on the best hookup apps, getting relationship fatigue happens with everyone.
You don’t notice it for a while until it starts to impact you where it hurts the most -inside the bedroom. Couples will usually blame the dip in excitement in their sex lives on their partner. They will make assumptions that the sex isn’t great because they’re just not physically or emotionally attracted to their partner anymore, after being together for such a long period of time. But that is not necessarily the case. Take a deeper look at how your sex life started, and how it unfolded.
When you two met you probably couldn’t get your hands off each other. From your very first date and as you continued to ride the cloud across the rainbow on your honeymoon period, you were inseparable. But that sort of attraction isn’t only reserved for how you feel about the other person. In fact, you probably exploited certain scenarios and instances so that you can be sexual risk-takers. You probably snuck into the bathroom of your favorite restaurant and had dessert before even ordering your mains. You may also have gotten frisky in a movie theater, or in the great outdoors. The point is the sex was spontaneous and sporadic, not scheduled, and feels sedated.
That death in imagination, not attraction, is what slowly kills your sex life. You opting to just have sex in the same lame bed, same day and at the same time, like clockwork, is what makes you fall out of love with the sex. And I know I’ve said relationships feel like having the same thing to eat every day, but if that thing is pizza, and you can have pizza on Monday in a movie theater, on Tuesday in the park, on Wednesday on top of the tallest building in your city, and Thursday in your old high school auditorium. Then well, pizza doesn’t sound as bad now does it?
Mix it up and keep mixing it till you’ve tried all the different flavors, positions, ways, and places. And then when you’re finished, start all over again.